A week into 2018, Happy New Year! I’m feeling really good about this year for some reason. I’ve always liked new beginnings, but last year I felt slightly on edge as the year started, and this feeling stayed with me for the whole of 2017.
Looking back, I had an amazing year filled with so many good times and good people, but I think there was a bit too much going on and my mind wasn’t in the best of places.
I was working 5 days a week in Swansea, which is 60 miles away – leaving the house at 8am and not returning until 7pm (with nearly 3 hours of driving a day). Although I do love my job, it caught up with me. Most nights I had something on- so I had to leave straight after returning from work. We hardly had supper – I just grabbed something on the way home (waay too many McDonalds). I was the secretary of our Young Farmers’ Club – which was very time consuming, although rewarding and great fun. I was fitting in 4 music lessons a week after work, as well as conducting our local choir (meeting every Sunday night). We also had many concerts with the choir. There was some event or other on most weekends, but I also tried to help Rog as much as I could on the farm. And I was trying my best to keep the house clean and tidy, and the clothes washed. I also had a hen weekend to organise in Ireland (which was great) and a local hen which I wanted to do a good job of. I barely said no to anything. I also of course wanted to keep good relations with friends and family, and try and catch up with them as much as I could, and felt guilty when I hadn’t/ couldn’t see them for a while, or didn’t have time to reply to messages (as I think you should always try your best to keep in contact with good friends).
That paragraph is pretty much how I felt the whole year! One crazy jumble on a running train. Although I really enjoyed most of the things that happened, my state of mind was completely off. I knew that it wasn’t sustainable and I was very glad to see the back of 2017.
But this year it’s going to be different.
I am working from home 2 days a week now – Wednesday and Friday- which is great. I’m saving six hours on just travelling, let alone feeling less tired and saving fuel money. I’m not a secretary in YFC anymore, which means that I can choose what I go to, and if I’m not feeling 100% I don’t feel that I have to go. I can fit the music lessons in the travel time on a Wednesday, which is great. Choir is still going but the Sunday night practices are quite tough, so I’m going to have to see what can be done there. Rog is actively looking for another worker for the farm, and the lady that cleans the farmhouse is going to come down here once a month to do a deep clean to help me keep on top of the housework. The wedding where I was bridesmaid has been at the end of last year, and was absolutely beautiful. It was such an amazing day, and we have great memories of the day, and of the two hen parties to look back on. I am going to say no to more things now without feeling guilty or having FOMO! I recently saw the term JOMO on Instagram – The joy of missing out! That is a good way of looking at it. I’m going to make an extra effort to go and visit family members, and meet up with good friends. Also, I read an interesting article that said that you should pay attention to how different people make you feel. If anyone is draining you, spend as little time as possible with them, and if someone makes you feel happy and positive, spend more time with them. I will definitely be doing this.
So, basically, my new year aspirations are:
- Focus on well-being – to gain a healthy and positive mind, and a strong and healthy body.
- Say no to things when I’d really rather just be at home – the things I really want to go to will then feel extra special.
- Take more time to blog – I have always loved writing, and find it so therapeutic.
- Spend time with more people who mean a lot to me, and less time with negative, draining people.
- Go slow – notice the good in every day, and appreciate life as much as I can.
2018 has started well, and I sincerely hope that the year will continue this way too.
What are your aspirations for 2018? I hope you have a good one 🙂